HOME LIFESTYLE

13 TOXIC PEOPLE SIGNS TO AVOID (AND HOW TO DEAL WITH THEM)

silhouette of man standing near window

Do you live with toxic people? It can sometimes be difficult to tell if you have gotten used to their behavior.

You probably struggle with the question “How do I recognize a toxic individual?”

Good question!

It will be easier to identify and deal with toxic behavior in your friends and family. These are the things you need to know in order to avoid negativity.

WHAT IS a TOXIC PERSON?

What does it mean for someone to be toxic?

Toxic people are those who bring negativity into your lives. They can drain you, make your life miserable, and are not good for your mental well-being.

There are many types of toxic people. Here are 30 common traits to look out for in your life and relationships.

For helpful tips on dealing with toxic people, make sure you read to the end. (I will also share a short video with a true-life story about a toxic friend trying to steal my identity.

You might have toxic self-images in your home, which could be holding you back from being the real you.

30 SIGNS THAT TOXIC PEOPLE

1. They are in constant need of attention

Toxic people always seek to be the center of attention. They are proud to be the loudest or most controversial person in the room.

They will take it all in, no matter what the attention is – it doesn’t really matter whether it’s positive or negative.

2. They are MANIPULATIVE

People who are toxic can be manipulative. To get what they want, toxic people will lie, resort to guilt trips, emotional blackmail, or even threaten to kill others.

They know how to play the victim and make others feel sorry for themselves, even when they are wrong!

We now move on to the next item on this list.

3. They are ALWAYS the VICTIM

Toxic people always end up being the victims. They will find a way around it to make it look like someone else is at fault, no matter how bad the situation is.

They enjoy playing the victim card because it gives them power and control over others and keeps them looking good.

While misunderstandings can happen, it is clear that there is something wrong when everyone tries to put 100% of the blame on the other person.

4. THEY MOVE TOO FAST

People who are toxic often move too quickly in relationships, whether they’re in friendship or in love.

They’ll want to be serious fast without getting to know you. This is a red flag and anyone who attempts to do so should be avoided.

5. THEIR EMOTIONS MAY CHANGE ON A DIME

People who are toxic often exhibit extreme emotions that can be changed at will. They can be happy one minute and then become angry and scream at people the next.

This can be very confusing and frustrating as you don’t know their moods. It is possible to walk on eggshells with them, avoid certain topics, or even avoid them altogether because you never know what could cause them to get upset.

6. THEY DON’T LISTEN TO YOUR QUESTIONS

Are you friends with someone who talks to you all day but doesn’t take the time to hear your thoughts or words?

They will interrupt you while you are talking and try to guide the conversation back toward their lives or ignore what you have to say.

This can be very frustrating as it makes you feel like your voice is not heard or validated in a conversation. It is so one-sided!

7. DRAMA FOLLOWS THEM EVERYWHERE THEY GO

Drama is a favorite of toxic people.

They want to be the center of attention so they may look for ways to make things interesting or create drama to get things moving.

It can be exhausting because it is just one thing after the other.

8. THEY LOVE TO ONE-UP YOURSELF

Toxic people will always be the best and need to outdo you in every conversation. They will make the conversation about you and your topic irrelevant.

They will often say that a great dinner was not as good as the one they had the night before. Maybe you’re excited to show your new purse to them, and they then go out to buy one 10x as expensive.

9. EVERYONE ELSE IN THEIR LIFE IS CRAZY

People who are toxic love flipping the story. It’s always someone else in their lives who is the problem and never them!

Some people do have crazy ex-girlfriends and family members. However, if they only tell stories about bad relationships or friendships, and the “crazies start to pile up,” that’s a sign that something is up.

10. They lie or ignore the truth

Toxic people will lie straight to you without blinking or feeling remorse. If it’s easier, they might withhold or omit information.

They may “forget” about having a girlfriend when they first started dating you, and then, when confronted, say “But you never asked me that!”

These compulsive liars are often low in self-esteem and will lie to make themselves feel better. They will lie or fabricate stories even though it is easy to tell truth.

11. They CAN’T GIVE UP ON THE PAST

People who are toxic often keep grudges from the past, real or imagined. They will retaliate by bringing up all the wrong things they have done in their past if you attempt to correct them.

While you may have made amends and moved on, toxic people will still hold grudges against you for the rest of your life. They see the past as a weapon against you.

12. They do not apologize for their actions or mistakes and they never own them up to it.

Even if they are clearly wrong, toxic people won’t apologize. They will always find a way for you to excuse them or blame someone else if you confront them about their harmful behavior.

13. THEY GASP AT YOU

Gaslighting refers to a manipulative tactic that tries to make your reality doubtful and ask you questions about your memory, perception, and judgment.

Gaslighters will lie to and deny what they have said, make accusations about you for being too sensitive or “imagining” things, play mind games with your thoughts, and attempt to control how you perceive a situation.

Leave a Comment