As many have experienced that traveling with a companion or colleague or companion can put even the strongest relations to the ultimate test. A foreign environment, unfamiliar surroundings, language, less comfort, strange food choices, and other unexpected situations can force people away from their comfort zones. They can trigger reactions and behavior that differ from what is seen at home and can adversely impact the experience of traveling.
The risk is higher when traveling with a “stranger buddy. More and more, travelers are turning to websites and groups on Facebook for a travel companion. To avoid having to pay an additional fee on the tour, they trust the tour operator to connect them with an individual room-sharing partner. This is not guaranteed and requires pre-trip efforts to assess the compatibility.
The following is part 1 of a blog post on choosing travel companions who are compatible. Part 2. A thorough questionnaire will help you choose the right travel companion. It includes a comprehensive list of questions that will encourage a pre-trip conversation with a possible travel partner to assess the degree of compatibility.
Anyone who has traveled with someone else knows that selecting an appropriate travel companion is among the most crucial choices to make. A person who is right for you can enhance your travel experience, while the wrong choice can make a trip an accident, break an association, or end the relationship.
Horror stories about traveling in the wrong direction with a person
Are there any benefits to gain from bringing back negative memories of travels with the “wrong person”? Do you remember a frustrating experience with the “right person”?
I think that doing so could be beneficial. They:
- It is vital to select an appropriate travel partner
- It is suggested that selecting a good travel partner shouldn’t be just a quick exercise.
- Let us highlight your needs as a traveler
- Let us know the peculiarities of your personality when you travel.
- Let us know what you value in your travel companion
- Consider ways to be a better travel companion for other travelers.
- Inspire ideas about how to organize the trip in a way that will meet the needs of all
- Give suggestions for the questions to ask your potential traveling companion to assess they’re the degree of compatibility
- Reaffirm why you like the freedom of traveling alone
The following are actual examples posted via social media, comments from friends, as well as my own personal experience.
- My travel companion refused to take part in any activity due to the fact that “it costs too much.” That means no restaurants or cooking classes, guided tours museum visits (unless free), or food-related tours.
- My friend was an a**hole. She left her belongings scattered all over the self-catering area and left the kitchen and bathroom with a mess. I felt compelled to play the job of a janitor throughout the duration of our vacation.
- My travel companion invited one of our guests to come back to our hotel, but the guy never left. He didn’t contribute to any of the expenses of our group and when it came time to go to the check-out my travel companion was left with none of the funds to cover her portion of the expenses.
- A friend invited herself to one of my excursions and she cried constantly. She didn’t leave her in the morning after she’d had her cigarette and wouldn’t go out until she’d consumed two cups of coffee.
- My partner and I read. every. menu posted outside every. single. The restaurant we walked past as I waited. I got more and more hungry. It was a sigh of relief.
- I had planned a trip for two weeks to Poland and a good friend of mine asked me if I could join me. We agreed on a plan and decided to hire the car. She then invited a second friend without prior discussion. Then, that person also invited a fourth. We decided to go ahead with the journey, but it made bookings for accommodations difficult and caused friction. We stuck to the original itinerary however, it didn’t appeal to the newcomers who were more focused on shopping. They also were spending long hours in the car as me and my companion went out and explored.
- On our trip, two women shared the same room. One of them couldn’t sleep with watching the television, while the other was unable to sleep due to the noise and lights from the television. They ended up sharing the bed and one was unable to sleep the second night. Additionally, one of them wanted to have the air-constant air conditioning but the other did not.
- I love getting up early even when I’m on vacation and getting ready for my day before 8:00. However, my partner doesn’t make his motor run until 11:00 am, and traveling with him is a nightmare. It always feels like my life is in limbo when I travel along with him.
- My style of travel is to stay longer in fewer locations, spend the afternoon or day free from touring, and go at a relaxed pace to museums or other locations. I traveled with a friend who was determined to do the most amount of time possible in the evening and day. The trip was tiring.
- My friend was not a light-packer. She didn’t want to take public transportation, and we needed to use taxis. She was expecting me to pay for half. When the time was right to take her bags on and off the the steps of our hotel she complained of back pain and demanded that I carry the bags. As I was carrying them she quickly walked into the master bedroom without discussion.
- My friend was in a rage in the car due to the fact that she wanted to smoke. as a non-smoker and I resisted since I hate the smell or smell of cigarettes and hate smoking second-hand smoke.
- My friend was constantly required to communicate her thoughts to the point where I was able to feel that my thinking and feelings were interrupted. Although I would expect a traveling companion to discuss some important thing or something extraordinary her chatter was never-ending.
- We decided to stay for some time in a charming coastal town since it is known for its fresh seafood. I did not realize that my travel companion was against seafood. This, along with the fact that she would constantly complain about her food choices and drinking made each dinner an unpleasant encounter
How do you select an appropriate travel companion
Take a look at these three easy steps:
1. Who do you think of as a tourist?
Before you decide on who is suitable for you, take a look at your identity as a person who travels.
Recognizing your interests, needs, and irritants, your spending preferences, and your travel preferences can help you pinpoint areas in which compatibility is crucial. It will help determine what areas your preferences and needs could align with those of a potential travel partner and in which areas they might be at a crossroads.
Make a list of the questions that probe the essence of your identity as a traveler. Here are a few suggestions:
- What personal quirks or elements of your lifestyle could make others uncomfortable? Being aware enough to recognize these will allow you to identify conflicts or areas of tension.
- What do you dislike about your partner? What is the point where a certain feature or behavior from your travel companion would annoy you? What behaviors or habits are not negotiable?
- What are your top priorities or preferences as a traveler?
- Do you prefer to lead the way or do you prefer to be being you follow?
- Which is the preferred speed of traveling?
- What kind of events does appreciate the most?
- How extensive or strict is your budget? What are your top priorities for spending? What areas do you consider budget-conscious, and in which areas could you spend your money?
- Do you love doing things by yourself? Do you require your own space to do things like reading, reflection, or even writing?
Second Step: Make sure you ask the appropriate questions
Your travel companion and you will be in each other’s company for a long time, all day long. Even with friends who you trust, there’s no guarantee that the harmonious connection at home can translate into an understanding when you travel.
It doesn’t matter if a potential travel partner is a lifetime acquaintance, a family member or a friend of friends, or a “stranger buddy,” it is important to gather the most information you can prior to deciding whether you want a trip together.
Set up a time to chat. Create a video chat. If you’re living in the same region and you’re in the same area, have lunch together or spend the day exploring together. It is important to clarify that the goal is to help you decide whether you’d like to travel together. It is suggested that both parties take an opportunity to reflect and reflect on what you discussed and be open with one another concerning the motivations behind your individual decisions.
If you’ve made the decision to travel with your friends, the goal of the gathering is to find out how to achieve it.
To foster honesty and openness Consider preparing some revealing information about your flaws. Could the following suggestions help?
- “A couple of my travel companions have reported that I sleep a lot. It’s not a chainsaw however, it is soft enough to be blocked with earplugs. In case of emergency, I’ll always have nasal strips.”
- “I take my carry-on bags everywhere and have a bad taste for those who are unable to recognize that carrying loads of luggage can be an absolute hindrance to enjoying travel. My compromise with a close friend of mine is that she takes everything and, should we require taxis due to her luggage, she’ll pay for it.”
- “When I would play the role of a food critic during a meal in the restaurant, it would make my husband mad. Now, we have a consensus that any comments that are negative regarding the meal should be left until after the meal. Positive comments are fine.”
For suggestions on topics for discussion and questions that can help facilitate the discussion, refer to Part 2: An extensive questionnaire that will help you choose the most compatible travel partner. Select the ones that are effective or make use of the questionnaire to help inspire your own.
Step 3. What do you do next?
Here are some ideas on what you can do with this information.
1. You can contact the person you want to you to discuss your decision
I hope you’ll be truthful. If you don’t think you’re an ideal match for each other, let it be known. An unpleasant travel experience isn’t worth taking the risk for the two of you.
If you’ve determined that your relationship isn’t going to be successful, you should frame your remarks to the extent possible in terms of different ways of traveling, rather than judgments or criticisms of the other party.
2. Do you require an initial test?
Undecided? Might a short getaway help? Think about it as a test.
3. Determine compromises and possible Solutions
If they’re not major issues Find solutions in the areas where your travel preferences differ. If needed, have a follow-up meeting to consider the possibilities and ways to include them in your trip.
This could include renting different rooms or splitting up for short time periods when you have different interests or establishing ground rules that govern the relationship.
It’s not as frightening as you may imagine. In the past, my traveling companion was forced to cancel her trip within five hours of our trip to the United Arab Emirates, Jordan, and Turkey. While on the plane I was devastated by the loss of my friend and wondered what new insight this abrupt twist of events could reveal. I realized that traveling alone does not mean that I am alone. It brought me into conversations with fellow travelers I would never have met as well as brief travel experiences with various travel companions that I came across during the journey. I realized that I am a fan of traveling on my own.
5. Find short-term traveling companions during your trip
There are many opportunities to find travel partners for a couple of hours or even a few days. You can sign up for a no-cost stroll, spend the night in a hostel, or go on an excursion or food tour. There will be interaction with other participants as well as other solo travelers looking for travelers for a short-term trip.